No matter how deeply you have been wounded by someone that you trusted, it never has to destroy your life.Jesus Daily
I Am Responsible…
By Dominic Herbst
Many people are walking around today believing their life is ruined forever because of something someone did to them. In most instances, these people were legitimately, painfully harmed by someone they trusted. The stories we all hear each day are positively heart-wrenching. In the midst of the hurt and suffering and grief, a glimmer of hope is waiting to emerge. A truth is waiting to be found…
No matter how deeply you have been wounded by someone that you trusted, it never has to destroy your life. I’m not saying it doesn’t hurt. I’m not suggesting it doesn’t leave a mark. I’m saying— YOU can overcome ANYTHING. In fact, God Himself is on your side, and will never allow another person to ruin your life. But God will allow you to ruin your life because He gave you a free will. The question becomes, what will you choose?
“This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live…” –Deuteronomy 30:19 When someone hurts you, this creates a wound in your soul. We are all wounded in this fallen world. Even Jesus was wounded for our transgressions, He was crushed for our iniquities (Isaiah 53:5)… But the difference between Jesus and us is that His soul wounds never became infected. When we become wounded in our soul, the devil begins immediately to poke at the wound by providing “… imaginations that exalt itself against the knowledge of God.” (2 Cor. 10:5). The Devil fills our mind with bitterness and hate against those who wounded us, whispering, “They ruined your life because of what they did to you!” When we meditate upon and entertain these thoughts of hatred, we allow our soul wound to become infected. So, in fact, while our offender can deeply wound us, it’s ultimately our bitter response that infects and destroys us. It is our hate that puts us in bondage. It’s not what they did, but how you responded to what they did that will ruin your life when it’s not addressed and kept in check.
The good news?
No matter how long you’ve been living a ruined life or believed the lie that someone else can determine your destiny, it can all change today. Just make a different choice. Choose life. Choose to acknowledge your pain and take it before the throne of grace…
“Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.” –Hebrews 4:16
Ask the Lord to meet you in the place of your greatest need. I promise—He’s already waiting there patiently for you. Allow Him to minister to your wound. Listen carefully as He tells you the truth about your life and all the plans He has for you. And ask Him for forgiveness for your bitterness and hatred and for not trusting Him for healing long ago. You are so loved and so worth it. Join me at www.restoringrelationships.org for more truths waiting to unfold. I would be honored to accompany you on a beautiful journey to victory, restoration, and healing for your soul.
Dominic P. Herbst, M.A., M.S. Therapist, author, consultant, and public speaker Dominic Herbst is a nationally renowned figure in the fields of family therapy and troubled youth. He works with a wide variety of people and organizations including professional and college athletes, corporate executives, prison inmates, churches, and people or families in crisis. He has also made numerous national television appearances, including interviews for a number of documentaries on rage, violence, and troubled youth. Dominic is the creator and steward of ͞Restoring Relationships,͟ a ministry dedicated to helping people create a victorious life by walking them through a process of addressing their most difficult challenges. Whether it’s a shattered heart, a bad habit, a strained relationship, or life circumstances that won’t seem to improve, Dominic’s passion is to help you find the freedom you’ve been searching for. Join him online or at a Live Encounter Event and begin your journey to victory, restoration, and healing.